Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.” – Ecclesiastes 3:11.
How many times have you and your spouse arrived at the end of a busy week, and neither of you feel like you’ve had a real conversation, let alone spent some quality time together. With all the distractions like work, meetings, family commitments, friends, fitness and so on, there are hardly enough hours left in a day for spending time with your partner. People find themselves complaining about how they don’t have time for themselves let alone spending time with their spouse. Being busy with daily tasks is a part of life, don’t get me wrong, but when your calendar shuts out your marriage, it is time to rethink priorities.
It doesn’t change overnight. Slowly, almost imperceptibly, the quality time a couple spends together dissipates. The reality is you will drift away from your spouse when you don’t make time to talk and interact with a specific purpose, rather than idle chit chat. The same thing happens when we forget to pray and are so busy you don’t make time to meet with God. We begin to drift away. Just as we need to be intentional in our relationship with God to mature spiritually, we have to do the same in our marriages to grow closer to our spouse.
In today’s world it is not easy to find time. But to have a successful marriage we need to make time for each other. Maybe we need to move it up on our priority list. It may be that we stop doing some things, or maybe we need to learn to say no, or maybe we just need to get better at time management.
We should expect more as husband and wife. It’s too easy to give our best time and energy away to everyone and everything else, other than the one you vowed before God to “love, honor, and cherish” for the rest of your lives. Ask yourself a simple question: How well are you loving, honoring, and cherishing your spouse if you never spend any quality time with him or her?
You’ll be amazed by the connection you have with your spouse when you start making quality time for them.
- Is there more “me” time or more “our” time in your marriage?
- What is your idea of spending quality time with your spouse?
- In what way can we invest more time in our marriage/relationships this week?