“The right questions are often more important than the answers we think we should have. God welcomes our struggle.”- Dietrich Bonhoeffer.
Most Christians have probably wanted to ask God a question that felt risky. Questions like: Why is this happening? Why does this hurt so much? Am I doing this faith thing wrong? Where are you when life is falling apart? What am I to make of all the social issues?
If you’ve had questions, you’re not alone. The truth is, our culture often tells us that faith means having all the answers, that doubt is a weakness, or that asking questions is somehow unspiritual. But Scripture shows us a different picture: it’s okay to wrestle. It’s okay to speak honestly to God, even if your words sound raw, frustrated, or confused.
Think about Job. Job in the Bible was not polite. He didn’t quietly accept his suffering or speak in measured tones; he cried out, complained, and demanded answers from God, expressing his anguish honestly and fearlessly. And God didn’t rebuke him for the honesty of his anguish. Instead, God engaged with Job, showing up in ways Job couldn’t have anticipated. Job’s honesty didn’t cost him God’s love; in fact, it brought him into a deeper, more authentic relationship with God.
Questioning God doesn’t have to mean we lack faith. Honest questions can be a vital part of a living, resilient faith. It often means we care deeply about our relationship with Him. It’s an expression of our desire to understand, to connect, to trust—even when trust seems difficult. When we are honest with God about our doubts, fears, and confusion, we open ourselves to a faith that is real and resilient.
So, how do we question God without losing our grounding? Start simple. Speak your mind as if you’re talking to a friend who knows everything about you. Try something like: “God, I don’t understand this situation. I feel lost. Can you help me see?” Or even: “I’m angry, and I don’t know why this is happening.” Those are prayers. They are authentic and heard.
Next, lean into Scripture. Some passages feel like they were written for our moments of doubt. The Psalms, especially, are filled with voices that cry, complain, question, and wrestle. David writes things like, “Why do you stand so far away? Why do you hide when I am in trouble? (Psalm 10:1). These words show us that even the great figures of faith were allowed to ask hard questions. They remind us that our honest inquiries can be part of a rich spiritual dialogue.
So, if you’ve been hesitant to ask, to cry, to complain, or to admit you don’t get it, remember that honesty matters. God’s love doesn’t hinge on your certainty. He can handle your questions, your doubts, your fears, and your raw, messy prayers. And in that honesty, you’ll often find God closer than you ever imagined.
Discussion Questions:
- When we struggle or doubt, how can honestly expressing our questions to God deepen our faith rather than weaken it?
- What lessons can we learn from biblical figures like Job or David about wrestling with God during times of confusion or suffering?