“Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”’ – Matthew 7:3-5.
One of the reasons there is a gap between the ideal and the reality of family life is because we tend to adhere to the wrong standard. We are content to lower the bar, the standard, because we distort, or forget God’s standard for the family. What we need to do is to stop looking at life from our perspective and begin looking at life through the eyes of God. It’s when we begin to look at life with the eyes of God that we will have a clearer vision of what God intended for the family. The clearer our vision becomes, the greater success we will have living by God’s standards.
Seeing life as God sees life will never be easy. When we look at our family through our eyes and our standards, we tend to accept our flaws and shortcomings. God looks at life differently. God also sees people differently than you and I. He sees success and failure differently. In the eyes of many, and even in your own eyes, it may look as if you have failed. It may look as if you don’t have what it takes. But whose eyes are you looking through? What standards are you using?
For us as human beings, it’s natural to look at a problem through logic, past experiences, and what we can see with our eyes. God, however, sees past all that. He looks at our challenges and sees opportunity. Where we see a boring and meaningless job, God sees a ministry and place of growth. When we see hopelessness, God sees a chance for us to experience His hands at work in our life like never before. Where we see weakness in ourselves, God sees an opportunity to show Himself mightily.
There are so many examples in the Bible where people see one thing physically, and God sees something far greater spiritually. In 1 Samuel 16, everyone else saw David as a lowly Shepard, but God saw him as a king. In Exodus 14, Israel saw the Red Sea as the barrier between them and freedom, but God saw it as the instrument of their deliverance.
When we start looking at the world through God’s eyes, we stop focusing on our problems and start focusing on the victory. Jesus has already won the victory for us. Now its just about accepting that victory and letting it reign in every aspect of our lives. That enables us to focus on correcting the areas where we fall short of God’s standard.
- How do you view your family today? How do you believe God views your family?
- Do you believe that having God’s perspective will enable us to better understand God’s standards as far as it comes to family?
- What can we do this week to change our perspective?