God’s Marriage Knot

“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12.

It makes sense that since God created marriage, He is interested in the outcome. And since only God has the ability to make a marriage as He intended it to be, it would be prudent to hand over our marriage and relationship to Him.  Because at the end of the day, a Christian marriage is the effort of two people to create for each other the circumstances in which each can become the person God intended him or her to be. 

It comes down to priorities. Are we living out our life as if God is in control? Are we handing over all our cares and problems to Him? Are we secure knowing He has a plan for our lives?  Are you enjoying the peace and joy that only a relationship with God can provide? Do you know that God will actually make a difference in your life?

There are many things we can do to produce a healthy marriage, but there are some things that only God can do.  We count on our spouse to make us happy and to fill our life with joy.  In the final analysis, the only person who can meet your deepest needs is Jesus. If you are looking for a man or woman to do that you are looking in the wrong place. From the beginning of the honeymoon, all along the way, partners struggle with their weaknesses, their differences and with the crises that life brings their way. Every marriage sees conflict. Every marriage is a journey of hills and valleys, highs and lows. There are times when we argue over trivial issues or when we think our partner acts like a child. There will be times when we get frustrated because we cannot agree about something that is important to each of us. 

Many people seem to think that God needs a little help, so we must work our hardest and do our best and burn the candle at both ends because God will intervene in some cases, but ultimately it all rests on us to take care of all the details. Faith is something we give lip service to, but do we live it?  Here is the bottom line: God won’t make a difference until we start living by faith, knowing that He can manage anything better than we can.

God wants a healthy marriage for each of us that get married. But we must work at creating the environments that allow Him to do that. In loving God and loving each other, couples grow together – and become the people God wants us to be. We simply need to operate on faith that God has our marriage in His perfect plan.

Discussion Questions:

1. Where do you stand in giving God total control over your life?
2. What problem(s) in your marriage do you see as your responsibility? Which do you see as God’s problem?
3. What do you think God is doing in your marriage right now?