“Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.” – Proverbs 18:24 (MSG).
Close spiritual friends are rare — especially friends who will hold us accountable when we need it most, build us up when we’re down, and celebrate with us when we’ve enjoyed success. Unfortunately, some people don’t have that kind of friend. In modern culture, we often have acquaintances and social media “friends” instead of genuine, long-standing friendships. When things go poorly for us or when we have nothing to offer others, our acquaintances may abandon us in times of trouble or fade away if our problems persist. True friends do exist. Their commitment and dedication can even run deeper than our physical family.
Good friends are one of God’s greatest gifts. Not one of us is meant to go through life alone and without help. God longs to use you as His hands and feet to those He has placed in your midst. He longs to make you a friend as He is a friend to us, to bless others, and extend the reach of His kingdom.
We all crave connection, and true friendship is a precious gift that enriches our lives. It’s a bond built on trust, loyalty, and mutual support —a bond that can withstand life’s storms. Like a well-tended garden, friendships require care and nurturing to flourish.
1 Samuel 18:1-3 tells of the powerful friendship of David and Jonathan:“As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. And Saul took him that day and would not let him return to his father’s house. Then Jonathan made a covenant with David, because he loved him as his own soul.”
Jonathan was an incredible example of God’s heart for friendship. Jonathan was the rightful heir to the throne of Israel. Behind Saul’s pursuit of killing David was his desire to make Jonathan king. But instead of seeking earthly success, Jonathan humbled himself before David and served him, thereby serving his heavenly Father as well. Jonathan chose friendship over worldly power. As a result, David became Israel’s greatest king and ushered in the lineage of Christ.
Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” God longs to transform you into a friend who loves others unconditionally. It’s in the hard times that we need our friends the most. Yet in the hard times, many friends abandon us for relationships that require less of them. The heart of God is to stick with us through trials, sin, and bad decisions. He never leaves us or forsakes us, and He longs to make us like Him. He longs to make us friends who will love us through every season of life. He longs to empower us to love, serve, honor, and bless those He has intentionally given us.
God is calling you to love your friends “at all times.” He is calling you to a lifestyle of service and grace. What friend of yours needs your help right now? Who can you choose to serve over yourself? What friend is God calling you to love with the love He has shown you today?
Discussion questions:
- Reflect on the friendships that have had a lasting impact on your life. What qualities have you valued in these relationships? Have they provided support, encouragement, or laughter during difficult times?.
- Think about the diverse range of friendships you have – close friends, casual acquaintances, and those who provide mentorship or guidance. What does each type of friendship offer you, and how can you nurture these relationships?
- The Bible emphasizes the importance of friendship, highlighting the love and support we can find in godly friendships. Consider how your friendships can reflect God’s love and encourage one another’s spiritual growth.