Only The Lonely

Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.” – Psalm 25:16

Loneliness is one of life’s most miserable experiences. Everyone feels lonely at times, but is there a message for us in loneliness? Is there a way we can turn the tables and stop being lonely? Sometimes loneliness is a temporary condition that lasts a couple days. But when it lasts into months and years, then it is trying to tell us something. It could be an indication that there is a problem, and if not dealt with will only get worse, regardless of all the home remedies we try to make it go away.

Loneliness is God’s way of telling us that we have a relationship problem. While that may seem blatantly obvious, there’s more to it than just surrounding yourself with more people. Doing that is very similar to trying to stay busy, but using crowds instead of activities. God’s answer to loneliness is not the quantity of your relationships, but the quality.

The saying goes that it takes a village to raise a child. We are all part of a village in some way or another. And in every village you find people who are lonely. But what happens if a neighbor or friend in your village is lonely. They need the village to be more of a community because they need community just as much as the rest of us. They need friends who will walk through the challenges of life with them and see them through to the other side. They need people who will listen and act in love when needed. They need a village that is made up of a few believers who will go out and be God’s love in action.

What if we came together as believers and helped lift some of the burden off our neighbors and friends weary shoulders and love them through the good times and the bad?

No, we can’t do it all. We can’t help every lonely person. But, lets be intentional about working to include those who are lonely, no matter where we live, no matter how often we move, no matter how we feel. Let’s stretch out our hands and put in the work to help those suffering from loneliness. 

Discussion Questions:

  1. What is loneliness? What are some typical factors that contribute to loneliness? 
  2. What are some reasons we have a hard time acknowledging our loneliness to ourselves and others?
  3. How can we make a significant impact in the life of a neighbor who is experiencing loneliness?
  4. What are some practical ways you can you act like Jesus and love the lonely? What might be a practical way to connect with someone who is in your blind spot that is struggling with loneliness?