“The one thing that will determine how you order your money – and all your life really – is your unique vision as a couple” – Ngina Otiende.
Every company has a vision. A vision is a mental picture of the result you want to achieve. A vision is not a vague wish or dream or hope. It is a tool that directs the future and informs and energizes the present. Visioning can be a very powerful tool. And sometimes they are pretty cool: For example, NASA’s vision is To fly What Others Only Imagine. But you would expect a pretty cool vision from a group that explores space and aeronautics.
If we want to improve our marriage here on earth we need to cast a vision as well. A company’s vision does not just appear. It takes hours and hours of collecting, analyzing and interpreting data to determine the vision statement that will guide how the management team will run the business. Ditto in marriage. I believe that if you want a thriving marriage, you must be intentional about it and that starts with a vision. Developing a vision for your marriage requires time together to seek God’s guidance, to pray together, talk through issues that need to be discussed, and make decisions about family, marriage, careers and anything else going on in your lives. Think about it for a second: If you have no idea about your destination, then how do you know when you’ve arrived? How do you know when you’re on the wrong path?
To build that vision spend time praying and discussing where you want to go and the obstacles that will pop up from time to time. Come away with a written plan, that each spouse commits to sticking to. A vision can address careers, finances, goals, aspirations, children, etc. Once the couple agrees on a vision, the likelihood of arguing about those areas is greatly reduced. The married couple simply needs to be true to the vision God gave them and move forward.
The great thing about going to the Lord and getting His vision for your marriage is that it’s absolutely stable. You go through a discouraging or difficult time, and that vision stays before you as a testimony that God has a purpose for your life and marriage.
- Is it possible for a couple to believe they are on the same page only to find out that they are being naive?
- How is being on the same page and being unified in vision different?