The Fear of Failure

“For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body” – James 3:2 (ESV).  

Most people have experienced a setback in their family, or in their personal life, in their health, in relationships, in finances and in their relationship with God. Some of these setbacks are not our fault. Some of them are. We will fail in this life. The good news is your failure is not final. Your failure is not fatal. It was Jack Hyles who said, “Failing is not a disgrace unless you make it the last chapter of your book.”  

Failing never seems to be a good thing. But if you will let God, He will use your failure as fuel for your future. It depends on how we respond. In fact, your future is wrapped up in how you respond to your failure. Isaiah 61:3 says He gives you “…a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the LORD has planted for his own glory.”

When the subject of failing comes up in Bible study, the example that quickly comes to mind is Peter. Jesus predicted Peter would deny Him three times. Peter’s reaction? He was adamant that he would never deny Christ. Peter claimed he would be willing to die with Him. (Matthew 26:35) Of course, we know Peter did deny he knew Jesus three times. After his failure, Peter “…left the courtyard, weeping bitterly”  I wonder if Peter thought back to Matthew 10:33 when Jesus said, “But everyone who denies me here on earth, I will also deny before my Father in heaven.” Again I wonder if Peter thought I’ve really done it this time. There’s no coming back from this failure. Fortunately, failure is not final. In fact, following His resurrection, Jesus took special care to rehabilitate Peter and assure him he was forgiven.

Early Sunday morning a small group of women went to Jesus’ tomb and found an angel who said: “You are looking for Jesus the Nazarene, who has been crucified. He has risen; He is not here; behold, here is the place where they laid Him.” Then the angel said these words: Now go and tell his disciples, including Peter…” (Mark 16:7) A personal note from God to Peter. God was not done with Peter yet. 

That reminds me of a bumper sticker I saw one time that said, “Please be patient with me. God is not finished with me yet!” We are all under construction as God shapes us into the very image of His Son – the Lord Jesus Christ. And God promises to finish the work He began. When you feel incomplete, undone or distressed by your failures, remember God’s promise in Philippians 1:6 to continue the good work He began in you when you trusted Jesus as your Savior. Even when I feel like I am not making any progress, God is still at work.  

Discussion Questions:

  1. What has been your experience with failure in life?
  2. Can fear of failure be paralyzing and motivating? Why or why not?

Every Good And Perfect Gift Comes From Above

“Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow.” – James 1:17

Many people today don’t want to be held down by religion. They would prefer to be autonomous; to have unsupervised fun and happiness. Those people envision God as a grimacing judge with a gavel, readily pointing out faults and stifling any sense of joy we have. When faced with setbacks, God can seem like a cosmic killjoy.

But then we read a verse that changes that perspective. James tells us in James 1:17 that God literally, actively, perpetually, and generously gives good and perfect gifts to His children. “Every good gift and every perfect present comes from heaven; it comes down from God, the Creator of the heavenly lights, who does not change or cause darkness by turning.” (James 1:17 GNT) His love for you is so great that He looks for every opportunity to give you a gift. He wants abundant joy and peace for you. Think of the best gift you ever got for your birthday or at Christmas and then think about gifts that are infinitely better and not restricted to holidays and birthdays.

Deuteronomy 26:11 tells us to “… go and celebrate because of all the good things the Lord your God has given to you and your household.” What God gives is perfect and lasting—no gift receipt necessary. We don’t need to worry that His gifts will be ill fitting or that He will second-guess His generosity. Each of us is imperfect yet we receive perfect gifts that are perfect for us. These gifts are intentional. They are personal.

Gifts that we receive from others can come with strings attached. But God is not like that. He is the giver of good gifts and He never changes. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. His love is not fickle or conditional: He gives the gift of His presence because He knows you need the peace that only He can bring. He gives you the gift of friendship because He knows you aren’t made to do life alone. He provides your finances because He cares about everything you need and desires to use you to bless others. 

Whatever gift you need from God today, His word promises in 1 John 5:15, “And since we know he hears us when we make our requests, we also know that he will give us what we ask for.” 

Spend some time today reflecting on the amazing gifts He has given you. And open your heart to receive all the gifts your heavenly Father longs to give you today.

 Discussion Questions:

  1. Take a minute to reflect on all the good gifts you’ve been given by God.
  2. Thank God for everything you’ve been given. Thank him for your friends, family, job, church, etc.

How Can I Stay Focused On Christ?

We must keep our eyes on Jesus, who leads us and makes our faith complete. He endured the shame of being nailed to a cross, because he knew that later on he would be glad he did. Now he is seated at the right side of God’s throne!”  –  Hebrews 12:2 (CEV).

With all the distractions in life, it’s easy to get focused on the wrong thing. The Bible communicates very clearly that we need to focus on our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. But life happens so fast in the 21st Century that staying focused on God in today’s ever changing world is not easy.  

When problems come our way we tend to take our focus off Jesus. We take our focus off Jesus and put it on our setbacks. We take our focus off Jesus and put it on our the walls we can’t seem to het over or around. We take our focus off Jesus and put it on our pain and heartache. And although we know that God “…is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.” (Ephesians 3:20 NIV) we still take our focus off Jesus: our setbacks seem too big, our circumstances seem to heavy, our pain seems too much to withstand. The answer is to put your focus on Jesus. Put your focus on Jesus and He will turn that setback into a comeback. Put your focus on Jesus and He will ease the pain and heartache.  

Jesus had an incredible ability to stay on target. His ability to focus is a strong characteristic of His life. His life never got off track. From the day Jesus started His ministry, He was relentlessly focused on one task – the task that mattered – to reconciling mankind back to Himself again by opening up a way of salvation. He was so focused that His final words were, “It is finished.” (John 19:30)  Jesus could say those words because He had completed His designated task. His purpose was fulfilled. The job was done.

So how do we have that same type of focus? Reading Hebrews 12:2 reminds us to take our eyes off ourselves and our circumstances – off the setbacks or the walls in our lives—and fix them squarely on Christ. Because our focus determines our direction. When we look at ourselves, we see our weaknesses, past failures, and the many excuses we make. But in looking to Jesus, we find strength, forgiveness, and the courage to run our race. No matter how much adversity comes our way or how many disappointments threaten to knock us out of the race, keeping our focus on Jesus will ultimately bring us victory.

Christ is the perfecter of us and our faith. We can trust Him to turn our resolution into reality as we stay focused on Him.

Discussion Questions

  1. What “walls” in your life have you been looking at?
  2. What can you do to remind yourself to keep your eyes on Christ? What word would help you maintain focus?

Standing Out In The Crowd

“But he kept on looking around to see who had done it. Then the frightened woman, trembling at the realization of what had happened to her, came and fell to her knees in front of him and told him what she had done. And he said to her, “Daughter, your faith has made you well. Go in peace. Your suffering is over.”” – Mark 5:32-34.

Jesus was accustomed to crowds: “Large crowds followed him wherever he went…” (Matthew 4:25) “A large crowd soon gathered around him, so he got into a boat….” (Matthew 13:2) And Matthew 15:30 says, “A vast crowd brought to him people who were lame, blind, crippled, those who couldn’t speak, and many others.”  The Bible often talks about a single person in a crowd. The Gospels tell the story of a woman who was bleeding for twelve continuous years and who was healed by Jesus simply because she touched the edge of His robe.  Religious laws at the time, required to announce her presence by shouting “Unclean! Unclean!” This kept people far from her. She probably kept quiet that day as she walked through the crowds. 

Her plan was to touch His robe. No announcement. No request for healing. No attention is drawn to herself at all. But Jesus noticed that someone touched Him. He could have let it slide and continued on His way. But He didn’t. The Bible does not tell us, but I wonder if He wanted to make a connection with her. To let her know He loved her and that she was not just one person in a crowd. She was special, unique, and important.

Maybe you are somebody who has been following the crowd. It is so easy just to do what seems popular at the moment; agreeing with popular opinions. Following worldly philosophies because they attract attention. Going to places just because other people go there. But just like the bleeding woman, you are special, unique, and important. You may have followed and even copied the crowd. You may have listened to ungodly advice. You may have concentrated so much on your circumstances that you stopped focusing on Christ.  But whether your story is exceptional, average or even below average, God sees you in the crowd. And when you reach out to touch His robe, when you call out in prayer, He feels your touch on His robe. His power in faith is available to you as well. 

If you feel like you are part of the crowd, ask yourself these questions: Will they take you where you hope to go, lead you to be who you hope to become? They won’t, they can’t. Following Jesus is not easy or easier. It’s just better. Jesus models and teaches us a better way to live more in line with how we were created to live. We will find the deepest meaning, purpose and significance in life when we stand out in the crowd as a followe of Jesus. 

Discussion Questions:

  1. What connection is there between a person’s faith and whether God heals him or her of a sickness? 
  2. In what way do we need to feel that God is approachable?
  3. What can we do this week to be less crowd oriented and more Jesus oriented?  

Standing On The Promises

“And because of his glory and excellence, he has given us great and precious promises. These are the promises that enable you to share his divine nature and escape the world’s corruption caused by human desires.” ― 2 Peter 1:4.

There are days where I feel like I am in the front lines of a battle where I am outnumbered and outgunned. Then there are days where I am in a boat that is not made to handle the gale-force leading winds of an approaching storm, only to watch it inch toward and then slam into the ship. When we are faced with challenging circumstances, what should we do? We can either grumble, get angry, and stomp our feet defiantly at the circumstances that seem too much to bear or we can trust God as Joshua repeatedly did, or as Paul did when he was shipwrecked in Malta. 

Despite how helpless we may feel in these moments, we are never truly helpless when we remember who God is and the promises He gave those who believe in Him. Psalm 18:2 says, “The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my savior; my God is my rock, in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the power that saves me, and my place of safety.” 1 Kings 8:56 says, “Praise the Lord who has given rest to his people Israel, just as he promised. Not one word has failed of all the wonderful promises he gave through his servant Moses.” You can place your trust in God and believe He’ll follow through on His promises.

God loves us. This is a foundational promise that the enemy does not want us to believe or receive because if we do we could fully receive all of God’s promises.  Romans 8:38-39 says, “ And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Search out the promises of God. His promises are sure. He is your rock and your refuge. Place your trust in his promises as often as it takes until they produce peace in your life. Choose continually to place your hope in God and live a life of faith regardless of your circumstances. 

So when you begin to hear the distant thunder and see the lightening on the horizon, do not be afraid. Hold fast to God, dig in deeper in prayer, study His word and trust in His promises. Hold His hand through the storm, staying focused not on the lightening, but on His ability to lead you through.

Discussion Questions:

  1. What are you trusting God with today? Are you anxiously or patiently waiting for God to fulfill His promises?
  2. We can trust God, no matter how impossible the circumstances, because God always keeps His promises. Agree or disagree and why? 
  3. Is there one area that has been a hindrance to your living by faith in God’s promises? What can you do this week to remove the hindrance(s)? 

Hope When The Boat Is Sinking

“The terrible storm raged for many days, blotting out the sun and the stars, until at last all hope was gone.” – Acts 27:20. 

The last two chapters of Acts are devoted mainly to Paul’s journey to Rome. In Acts 27, Paul was sailing as a prisoner from Caesarea to Rome. He warned the crew of a disaster and was ignored A storm came up that threatened the boat for many days before it finally shipwrecked on the Island of Malta. The people on the boat lost hope. 

We all face storms in life.  There are times we all feel shipwrecked because everything that supported us and made our lives stable has been pulled away.  Storms come in forms of sickness. Or in a loss. Shipwrecks come when jobs are downsized.  Shipwrecks come when we have conflict in our marriage. In all these situations we feel like life as we know it might be forever changed and maybe even over. So how do we handle those situations? Being able to move forward with faith and trust doesn’t just happen, finding the strength and courage to keep going doesn’t just happen. Paul’s shipwreck at Malta provide us some insight on how to not only survive, but thrive.  

The first lesson we need to learn from Paul is to expect the unexpected and be prepared. Being prepared depends on faith. The only way that we can make sense of the trials, disappointments and even tragedies of life is to have a solid relationship with God where our faith helps us make sense out of what we see happening around us. As Paul said, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28)   

The second lesson is to remember God’s purpose.  While storms and setbacks come in life, God does have a larger purpose for us that God will work to accomplish.  Paul was reminded of this when during the storm an angel came to him in a dream recorded in Acts 27:23-25. God had a purpose for Paul, he was to stand before Caesar in Rome and talk about Jesus being the Messiah and Savior of the world.  God reminded Paul of this purpose which helped Paul not lose hope but stay focused.  God has a purpose for all of us in life.  The purpose may be specific, like a call to a unique task or plan, but it might also be general – like the call to be a good parent, faithful child or supportive friend.  In times of disappointment and pain, we need to remember God’s purpose for our lives and Jermiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”

Whether the boat is in full sail or sinking our hope should be on Jesus Christ. It is easy to look at our circumstances rather than looking at and placing our hope in Jesus Christ. Replace hopelessness with faith and trust in God.

Discussion Questions:

  1. What is your first thought when you have that sinking feeling? Your first action? 
  2. What can we do this week to replace that sinking feeling with faith and trust in God?  

A Look At Commitment

 “You Never Hear Jesus Say In Pilate’s Judgement Hall One Word That Would Let You Imagine That He Was Sorry That He Had Undertaken So Costly A Sacrifice For Us. When His Hands Are Pierced, When He Is Parched With Fever, His Tongue Dried Up Like A Shard Of Pottery, When His Whole Body Is Dissolved Into The Dust Of Death, You Never Hear A Groan Or A Shriek That Looks Like Jesus Is Going Back On His Commitment.” – Charles Spurgeon

Commitment is not a popular word these days. Culture tells us you can have all of the “fun” that can be had by keeping your “options open” and meeting an immediate “need”, without worrying about long-term ramifications. In the home, we show that the marriage union is one that can be easily broken if things get too hard, no longer meets our needs, or simply fails to maintain our interest. And what about our commitment to God? For decades, Christians have understood this to mean “say a prayer of repentance and commitment to Jesus, attend church regularly, and live a generally good life.” The commitment to accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior is a critical commitment, but it does not end there. Once we decided to follow Jesus, we made a life-long commitment to Him.  

Rich Warren said “Nothing Shapes Your Life More Than The Commitments You Choose To Make.” Commitment is not an abstract idea or merely a mental exercise at this point, but a choice. Commitment means you have to stop riding the fence. Commitment means that you make up your mind. Commitment means to drive a stake in the ground and lay claim to one life, one focused goal; following Jesus Christ.   

 So, we need to continually ask ourselves self-probing questions to see if our commitment is what it should be.  Does your life show commitment to Christ?  Does the frequency of your church attendance show commitment to Christ?  Does the way you worship show commitment?  Does the way you conduct yourself when no one is looking indicate a commitment to the Lord?  Does the way you act at work, at school and in public in general demonstrate that you are a dedicated follower of Jesus Christ?  

Sometimes we need to get back to the basics and consider our own commitment to Christ. Jesus is looking for disciples who will follow Him and make him the most important part of their lives so that he is in control of every part. He is looking for commitment. 

When you have a heart that is sold out (committed) to Him and you are fully trusting that God will guide you in the best way possible, that is when you will begin to shine. You have to be willing to do what God wants and want what He wants in your life. As you do that while trusting Him, God will be able to do great things in and through you.

Discussion Questions:

  1. In 1 Chronicle 12:33 (NIV), we read: “soldiers prepared for battle with every type of weapon, to help David with undivided loyalty…” The NLT version says, “completely loyal.” And the ESV version says, “singleness of purpose.” How do those statements compare with our commitment to God? 
  2. What can we do this week to strengthen our commitment to God?  

Waiting and Trusting

We depend on you, Lord, to help and protect us. You make our hearts glad because we trust you, the only God.”  –  Psalm 33:20-21 (CEV).

Most people hate to wait. It starts with childhood when the last thing you want to hear from a parent is “not now.” Even in adulthood, we want everything done quickly, and culture today just exacerbates that frustration. We are not used to waiting, and the longer it goes, the less we are willing to wait. That dislike of waiting creates some tension for Christians because God works on a very different timetable. In His mind, nothing is wrong with waiting. In fact, waiting can actually be a positive thing. 

There have been times in my life where waiting was absolute torture. Times when I wanted closure, or to plow ahead to get done what I wanted to get done. I know that God always hears me, and often answers in amazing, unexpected, and sometimes very subtle ways. But, when I am chomping at the bit to get going, it can seem like my prayers are falling on deaf ears. 

Hindsight, is 20/20 however. When I reflect on how I wanted something resolved versus how it was actually resolved, I can see why waiting was a good idea. We need to trust God for the long-haul. It might be scary to give up that control in the short-run, but we can trust that He has a much wider view and perspective on what we really need than we could ever hope to have. Fortunately, God is not as short-sighted as I am.  

Remember the biblical story of Peter walking on water. Peter was fine when he kept his eyes on Jesus. We see all the problems swirling around us when we step out of the boat. And we wonder how in the world are these things going to turn out okay. Like Peter, we need to be focused and patient and keep moving towards the outstretched hand of Jesus. Once we try to do this ourselves, we will sink into the water. We need to continuously ask for God’s assistance in overcoming our fears, in waiting for His guidance. Even when I can’t see what that long-term outcome is going to be, I can be sure that He has the perfect plan for my life and all I have to do is keep my mind and heart open to his guidance, and then take a deep breath, ask for patience and wisdom to embrace the waiting, and trust that God is on the case, even if I don’t specifically see anything happening at any given moment.

God asks me to look beyond myself. True trust begins by acknowledging God, His wisdom, and His ways, and then choosing to act on what we’ve acknowledged. Do I trust God enough to wait for Him?

Discussion Questions

  1. Have you experienced a situation when God was late that still doesn’t make sense? What’s it like to go through that?
  2. God’s delays are not God’s denials. Agree or disagree and why? 

What Are You Focused On?

So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” ― 2 Corinthians 4:18

What we focus on grabs a hold of our attention and shapes us. As Christians, we are called to focus our attention on God, not circumstances.  We are called to focus on God who never changes, instead of situations or feelings which endlessly change and shift. When our perspective is clear and our focus is sharply on God, we can do amazing things.  

Elisha is a prophet in the Old Testament. (His story can be found in 1 and 2 Kings) He is a great man of faith. Yet, at one point in 2 Kings 6, he is caught in the middle of a battle between Syria and Israel. The King of Syria made plans to ambush the Israelite Army and Elisha spoils it. He warns Israel after God revealed the ambush. The Syrian King responds by sending his army to kill Elisha in the city of Dothan. The Bible says that the King sent a great army to surround the city by night so that they could destroy Elisha.  When the people of Dothan woke up in the morning, they found themselves surrounded on all sides by a powerful evil army intent on destroying their homes.

Elisha is accompanied by a servant in Dothan.  That servant gets up early in the morning to find their city surrounded by the Syrians. This is a huge deal in human terms. It is a powerful enemy army sent to kill the servant, his master and anyone else in the city without mercy.  This terrifying sight causes the servant to focus solely on the enemy and forget who he serves.  His eyes are filled with chariots, swords and thousands of enemy soldiers.  His mind is filled with fear, despair, and hopelessness.  The eternal is nowhere to be seen for him, just the very real sight before him. And his servant said to him, “Oh, sir, what will we do now?”  2 Kings 6:15

Elisha is not worried. Since Elisha is a man of God moved by God to oppose the Syrian King, God will protect him. God will take care of Elisha, his servant and the people of Dothan despite what the situation looks like on human terms.  Elisha simply needs to keep his eyes on the Lord and watch Him work. The servant does not have Elisha’s faith.  This lack of faith causes him to fall into despair.  God is not part of his equation so things just look hopeless. Elisha prays that the servant could see what Elisha could see, God’s perspective on the situation.  God’s view on the situation changes everything. “Don’t be afraid!” Elisha told him. “For there are more on our side than on theirs!” Then Elisha prayed, “O Lord, open his eyes and let him see!” The Lord opened the young man’s eyes, and when he looked up, he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire.”  (2 Kings 6:16-17)

God’s army was there the whole time. The servant simply could not see it. So, no matter how urgent the problem biting at your heels may seem, God’s answer for you is to look up and focus on God’s provision. God is bigger than any problem you face and can deliver you from any situation, no matter how bad it is.

Discussion Questions:

  1. If the goal is to be focused on God’s priorities, in what areas do we need to improve? 
  2. What can you do this week to maintain our focus on God when faced with negative circumstances  

God Is Truth

“ Pilate said, “So you are a king?”Jesus responded, “You say I am a king. Actually, I was born and came into the world to testify to the truth. All who love the truth recognize that what I say is true.”“What is truth?” Pilate asked. Then he went out again to the people and told them, “He is not guilty of any crime.” – John 18:37-38.

Pontius Pilate is a well-known name in Bible circles. He was Roman prefect (governor) of Judea during the reign of Emperor Tiberius. We know of him because of his role in the trial and crucifixion of Jesus. Just before Jesus was crucified on the cross, He was brought before Pilate. After a series of questions by Pilate, Jesus said “… I was born and came into the world to testify to the truth. All who love the truth recognize that what I say is true.” (John 18:37) Pilate responded with “What is Truth?” 

Some people think there is no absolute truth. “Truth” for them is simply what they think. People have all kinds of ideas about truth. But is truth just a point of view? Is all truth subjective? Is all truth relative? Truth is not subjective, it is not a consensual cultural creation, and it is not an invalid, outdated, unnecessary concept. People want to find something valuable that they can believe in and trust. People are looking for answers to both their hunger for truth and for the dissatisfaction that results when no answers are forthcoming.

What if truth is a person you get to know and who knows you? This person is Jesus Christ. He is truth.  Jesus said, “And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32). He said, “I am … the truth” (John 14:6). We find the truth in God’s Word. The Bible isn’t just here to offer us rules. The Bible offers a relationship with the Truth. John 17:17 says, “Make them holy by your truth; teach them your word, which is truth.”  

Don’t let yourself be fooled; eternal truth exists, and it will forever point to Jesus. His word provides sure footing to the truth as we walk through life. Regardless of what people say they believe about truth, the fact is that every day, we live our lives on the basis of things we believe are true. We step onto airplanes that we believe will fly. We flip switches that we believe will bring desired results. We marry the person we think will bring us happiness. 

Yet in Jesus Christ we have the most profound truth. He is the only One who can bring peace and joy and the total satisfaction you have been searching for.

Discussion Questions:

  1. God’s word is not just a truth but the truth: agree or disagree and why? 
  2. What truth or truths do we need to act on this week?